Physics tells is that life is made of 3 basic types energy:
(1)      Dynamic – this looks like a seed growing.
(2)      Static – this is the flower already grown & now maintaining.
(3)      Entropic or chaotic – this is the flower wilting & in the process of dying.

Which stage do you feel your marriage is in?

What would you say if I told you that you can stay in the DYNAMIC stage perpetually?  You can have (and keep) a dynamic marriage! So, the $64,000 question is – HOW?

You see, the great LIE is that a “static” or dying marriage is normal.  Dying of cancer is normal but not good.  “The-honeymoon-is-over-syndrome” is not a comforting experience but one most of us have endured.  Nobody likes it.

We are made in the image of God and He is passionate.  No one but a passionate God would send His son to die a cruel death on a tree… I don’t know how you feel about God today, but let me tell you how He feels about you:
-     God was so heart broken over you that He did whatever it took to get you back!

-     The day He formed you He was enraptured by you and He fell in love with you!
-     On the day you came to Christ the angels had a party!

Because we are in God’s image, you will be passionate about something. You will even be judged one day on where you set your passions.  Some people are passionate about the dumbest things like TRIVIA, Football or the Home Shopping Net-work!

Rule #1:  If you’re going to be passionate, be passionate about something that matters.

You were designed for passion!  So I know you’re passionate about something.  Be honest: what is it… really?
It’s subtle – you begin to give your time and attention to the kids or to work or to hobbies or the TV.

We get distracted by good things.
I hear ladies say, “He’s with me but he’s not ‘there’.”  Emotional Detachment – how do we “be in the moment.”  How do you keep the passion alive or get it back?

Where ever you invest your time and energy THERE your passion will be.

How?  Boundaries.  Even God takes a day off.  Gen 2:2 ‘God ENDED His Work.’
How do kids spell love?  T-I-M-E. (That’s how God spells it too.)  “Remember the Sabbath…”  (That’s how your spouse spells it too!)

When you are passionate about someone you give them time and energy without any resentment.  When our heart gets distracted, our time and energies follow, and we take from our spouse what belongs to them and give it to someone or something else.  Then we resent our spouse’s demands.  REALITY CHECK:  All spouses have demands.   If you don’t like it then don’t get married. If you’re already married – ADJUST.